Testimony: my wife does not want to make love any more!
It sometimes happens that the desire runs out in a couple. How make it be reborn and find a spread sexuality? Mike’s testimony, age 57, married: ” my wife does not want to make love any more! “
Mike’s testimony, in lack of love..
” My wife is 55 years old. We are married since about thirty years and we have 3 children. Since a few months, she does not want more than me gets her and tells not to want it any more. I am saddened with this situation. How to react? “
Why the desire falls it?
What you describe is good a lack of desire, certainly, but not only. Your wife does not have preliminary desire? But the problem is that she does not answer any more yours.
A woman who does not want to make love can very well “activate” her desire if her partner seeks her. At the women, the sexual envy is often born in echo in the envy for the other one. She corresponds to the pleasure to feel wished.
Your wife has no impulsive desire, nor no desire of answer. More still, she is not capable of envisaging a sexual relation without preliminary appetite.
Most of the women can nevertheless begin to make love, by simple pleasure to get closer to the other one, to be pleasant to him, and “appetite comes with eating..(”the more you have, the more you want”) … Your situation thus looks like a sexual blocking and this total impossibility to make love has necessarily one or several causes.
How to make the desire be reborn ?
It is maybe about a disorder bound to the menopause. Given the age of your wife, she is certainly in full menopause, moment of the life where sex hormones can pull disorders of the humor and the desire. I advise you to speak to her about it, if only to make her understand that you are present by her side, ready to help her. Encourage her to consult a gynecologist to evoke the problem and find solutions if the cause is physiological.
In about fifty, certain women try suddenly the feeling furthermore to be desirable. It is then very important to show her and to say to her that you love her and that you wish it, that you find her beautiful.
A sexual blocking can, naturally, be the sign of relational difficulties in a couple. Does she feel a resentment to you? Did you hurt her? Ask her openly the question. And ask her about what it is exactly. When a woman wants it with its spouse, her desire freezes immediately, sometimes for a long time. You have something make you maybe forgive, even without knowing it! Something who could seem to you perfectly harmless, even if for her it is important.
Also think of explaining to her how much the sexuality is a factor of harmony and love between you. Make her understand that you are afraid of going away one of the other one if you do not have spread
sexual life anymore.
“The marriage is somersault in the future” (Carmen Sylva)
